A new lens needed!

Welcome! It’s so lovely that you dropped by, I look so forward to your visit each week…I have the kettle boiling & a selection of teas, coffee & hot chocolate to choose from today…

pexels-photo-759960.jpegOur treat is a Gf Raspberry & Coconut slice & I have chosen an Australian afternoon tea blend for my cuppa. Which is a black tea grown here, it has a lighter taste, I take mine with Lf milk & raw sugar. What is your choice…tea…hot or iced, coffee or maybe a hot chocolate?

We are sitting in my lounge room which is warm & cozy, as once again it is freezing, windy & far too unpleasant outdoors. Now we are both settled with our cuppa & treat of deliciousness, we can begin our time of reflection together…

I have had some problems with my eyes lately, which have been causing some concern…

After noticing that I needed my prescription eye glasses more & more when out & about, as well as when doing close up work…I thought my prescription may need adjusting so I went to the Optometrist for an eye check. After a full range of tests, apparently my prescription didn’t need changing! Rather I was referred to the eye specialist instead!

The verdict, I need surgery in both eyes, this came as a bit of surprise to me. I had had real concerns for the vision in my right eye which had become increasingly blurry, extra sensitive to bright light & was harder to focus at night. But needing surgery in my left eye as well was definitely surprising! Because I find if I close my right eye, I can see perfectly well long distances with my left eye, without prescription eye glasses! The diagnosis is that I have cataracts in both eyes!

Which means the lens of the eye has become cloudy, restricting & scattering the amount of light through the lens…thus images are not properly focused on the retina at the back of the eye. Resulting in increasingly poor & blurry vision. Thus, I need to have the lens in each eye replaced with new artificial lenses!

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This gave me much food for thought for our reflection…

How often do we have clouded lenses with relationships, circumstances or even ourselves that restricts & scatters the true Light. Which leads to an unfocused & blurry image of the heart, resulting in a skewed & distorted perception & attitude!

I find the following fascinating; because my right eye is affected by an advanced cataract my entire vision for both eyes is completely distorted! Though my left eye definitely has the beginning of a cataract…it still possess’ clear vision as the cloudiness hasn’t reached the Centre of the lens yet…but the right eye so influences my total sight that it gives a scattered & unfocused view for both eyes….without my corrective prescription glasses on that is!

Have you noticed how our attitudes & perceptions can do this… because our heart was hurt & wounded in the past…our entire viewpoint changes when present circumstances remind us of that hurt…we start to view it through past lenses which lead to a blurry & clouded opinion!

I do need to have surgery in both eyes but my right eye will be done first & once healing is completed, my left eye will have its corrective surgical procedure… Our hearts too need to have a process of Mending brokenness to have a new & clear heart lens, allowing the true Light to be correctly focused (don’t forget to click on the blue highlighted text & read Mending brokenness).

Well, once again we have come to the end of our time together…Until next time dear friend…

Jennifer

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Only one earth life…

Hello & welcome, I have been waiting with excitement to share our time together today…

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I have made Gf carrot cup cakes with cream cheese frosting & brewed a new Morning black tea blend, grown & refined here in Australia. The cup cakes are so moist & delicious, with the frosting so creamy & tasty! I haven’t made these for years, as they are so morish you can’t stop at one!

We are seated today looking out over the bay, protected from the cold wind, in the lovely warm sunshine with the sound of the waves lapping the shoreline. Now we are enjoying our tea & treat, shall we begin our reflection….

I watched a movie length documentary the other day with my dear friend, we don’t often watch documentaries together but on this occasion we did. It was about the lives of four very accomplished women in the same profession but whom had led very unique lives while continuing a life long friendship, apparently they often get together to catch up but on this occasion a film team was present filming…

My friend & I roared with laughter at many of the funny things said & unsaid by these women, obviously close friends, while chatting around the table with each other…but in the last 30 minutes of this documentary, the mood completely changed.

It had been a day of fond reminiscing, friendly teasing, inside friendly banter & a discussion on more serious memories of their first husbands (whom had since passed)…there had been both endearing & surprising behavior from these four octogenarian friends during the filming.

But what changed the mood was the mention of another friend whom had made their own preplanned funeral arrangements. All those around the table became very solemn & somber, a few feisty about how dare this friend ask if they too had made plans for their funerals….But the mood had definitely changed…

I clearly observed real fear take up residence in each one of their faces on this subject. Then the matriarch of the group ended the filming…

While eating our sandwiches & drinking our cups of tea, after watching this documentary, my friend & I discussed how interesting it had been to watch & learn more about these women…

Though later that night, I found myself rather pensive…& deep in reflection for these ladies. These women had all reached the absolute pinnacle of their profession, each had been honored & awarded the highest title of the land for their work… But none of them had any future eternal hope…Each one of them had shown a real & palatable fear of death & dying…this is not a judgment but an observation…

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A quote kept coming to mind as I reflected upon this observation, it was a quote from a poem by C.T Studd, that was hanging in the main lecture hall at the Bible college I graduated from;

“Only one earth life,

Soon it will pass,

Only what’s done for Jesus will last.” 

I thought of my own personal journey of death & dying (shared in Excerpt ). And the promised future hope that I have come to know intimately & have committed my life to…

Death for me does not hold fear or terror, for I know whom I believe & what awaits those whom believe in Him…Do you fear death my friend…there is One who can take that fear & turn it into a joyful promised hope…if you allow Him…as I shared in My story

Well I have been good today, though morishly tempting, I only had one cup cake with my mug of tea, both very enjoyable! Until next time…dear friend…

Jennifer

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Dreams….

Hi, it is so lovely to have you drop by today, welcome, I have a cozy place for us to sit, relax & chat with a cuppa as its our winter here in Australia & it’s particularly freezing at the moment…

 

I have prepared some gluten free mini cinnamon rolls with glacé dipping sauce for our treat & a pot of Chai tea made with almond milk & a touch of honey (because one cup is never enough of this delicious blend!). We are sitting together at my dining table overlooking Gum trees, shrubs & wild grasses we call “the bush” here, which at times has wildlife guests such as Koalas, Goannas, a variety of birds including our resident Kookaburras & possums.

Now we are comfortable & enjoying our cuppa & treat, shall we begin our time of reflection together…

I had a really strange dream last night, when I woke this morning, I could still remember the finer details of it! I told my husband how weird it was & then I described the overall subject, he too thought it very strange…my dream was that I was in a “holiday factory”,  I was visiting my dear friend (introduced in Heart matters!) & she was trying to renovate this holiday factory by introducing joy into it, creating a garden where a barren scrub land existed! I told you it was weird…a holiday factory of all things!

Dreams…Are fascinating aren’t they…we can dream while we sleep or we can day dream while wake. We use the word to describe a goal for the future; as in a dream or dreams we have. We may describe someone we find attractive as dreamy or a dreamboat….or the concept of day dreaming can be used as a condescending remark,

“get on with it, you’re just a dreamer!”…

Medical Science & neuropsychology has many theories as to why we dream & what the purpose of dreaming does for us during our sleep cycles.

Some people remember their dreams while others don’t, some dream in color while others in back & white.  Daydreams are mostly being totally absorbed in our thoughts & imaginings while very much awake. The dreams we have for the future, are our hopes & aspirations we have for our lives.

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The Bible also mentions dreams…in many incidences where dreams were warnings, instructions or prophetic in nature. Refer

My dream last night, though rather strange can be simply explained, the last time I saw my friend we met at a holiday unit she was staying in, the last time we chatted she was telling me about the joy she had had at a family gathering she attended & my friend always tries to bring joy into barren places. The holiday factory in my dream was also manufacturing chocolate, my friend loves chocolate & my husband had been talking about making some chocolate & ginger fudge last night…simply a subconscious interpretation & filing of information…as well as, my friend had been in my thoughts…

But there are dreams that defy simple interpretation & explanation needing wisdom, discernment & prayer to understand…we are told in the Word that dreams will play a significant part in coming events here on earth in the coming day of the Lord…as they did in the first coming of Jesus…so they will in His second coming…

“…And it will come about after this that I will pour My Spirit on all flesh; and your sons and daughters will prophesy. Your old men will dream dreams, your young men will see visions…” Joel 2:28

With recent & current world events, world leaders & their seemingly reckless political maneuvering that have many a hidden agenda, we need to continue to be watchful & alert for the coming of the King…with great discernment…

We also need to ask ourselves, are we ready & prepared for His coming… that Jesus Himself, while on earth, said will happen quickly…

You’re welcome to read how I began my preparation when I was on an archeological adventure in Digging for treasure…

Dreams are so interesting, don’t you think, thank you for joining me, dear friend, I enjoyed our time of sharing a cuppa together…Until next time…

Jennifer

 

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Storms & life…

Welcome, we are having a different tea & reflection time together today, it has been raining here for three weeks now with some powerful storms, only three days in between of sunshine.

I have our  Gf Apple Strudel cake with homemade lemon butter ready…. with a cup of Lemon Grass Tea or if you would prefer, I do have coffee.

Apple & lemon are great companions for each other & these don’t disappoint, the cake is particularly moist & delicious, my lemon grass tea is both home grown & made (told in the blue link above).  I thought we would have a simple time of reflection with…a poetry reading…

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Rain by Jennifer

 Rain, rain, rain & more rain!

Wind blowing strong,

Chilling cold creeping into bones,

Chattering teeth,

Muscles tense & shivering,

Increasing cold, cold & freezing!

 

Warmth introduced,

Spreading through,

Muscles relax,

Cold decreasing,

Warm, warmer, warmest…

On a cold, windy & rainy day we seek a warm sheltered place & a hot cuppa…Don’t we…to bring warmth & comfort to our bodies…which brings a sense of wellbeing to us as we thaw from the exposure to bad weather.

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Let’s change the poem for when we are in a soul storm & exposed to life’s battering  & heartache;

Stress by Jennifer

Stress, stress, stress & more stress, 

Wrenching soul winds blowing,

Anxiety creeping into heart places, 

Wrestling sleep,

Increasing worry, worry & more worry!

 

Jesus introduced,

Spreading His Spirit through,

Heart places relax,

Anxiety, stress & worry decreased,

Peace, peace, perfect peace…

We need to seek a sheltered place for our souls too & drink the continual cup of love that is available to all…to bring comfort to our souls…Which brings a sense of spiritual wellbeing as we restore from exposure to life’s weathering…

Let us ask ourselves,  as we are in our time of poetic reflection…Where do we seek shelter for our souls in life’s storms….in things, people or in One who can truly bring peace for our weary souls…

Well I enjoyed sharing our poetry reading together, our delicious treat & cuppa are now finished…but you’re welcome to stay & linger awhile dear friend & enjoy my Home sweet home…

Jennifer

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Digging for treasure…

It’s is cold here today, the breeze is particularly chilly, so we are having our time together in the warmth of my lounge room…

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I have a different blend for us today…Cranberry & Pomegranate tea, delicious served either hot or iced…our treat is a Gf fig & almond biscotti… Now we are seated in the warmth with our treats,  I’d like to share an archeological adventure I began many years ago that I am still enjoying to this day…

As a child I loved stories of treasure hunts, especially treasure that had laid undiscovered throughout the ages. I also loved detective stories, who done its…those clever people who found clues to reveal the truth. When I heard stories or watched movies of  discoveries of ancient treasure, I dreamt of being an Archeologist one day,  going to far off places of the world, looking at the clues in the sands of time down through history to find the treasures of past civilisations for all to see. I loved all things ancient & historical.

When I finally had the opportunity to go to far off places it was not as an Archeologist however, but a wife & mother, raising a young family & caring for their needs. The bonus of living in a foreign country was being able to enjoy the surrounding cultural aspects of the exotic location… but I soon realized that the love of archeology had not left me but was burning deep within…a search for discovering treasures of spirituality had begun…my grandmother had asked me before I left Australia, what would I like as a Bon Voyage gift…my reply, a Bible please. I had never owned a Bible.

When I received the gift, I started reading Genesis, but then got to the begats & put it to one side. I had started to question many of the religious practices & their relevance that I had been taught throughout childhood…& had dutifully gone through for church membership as a child & young teen but had erred in my late teens…

Now as a young wife & Mama I wanted to look at the clues in the sands of time & dig down deep through the layers of traditions to reveal the truth behind the riddles of ritualized practices, that were beckoning to be revealed…so began a spiritual archeological dig…

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I asked the director of this dig, God, the Creator of the universe to reveal His truth to me, to strip away the layers of man made practices, rituals & traditions…to excavate & reveal His truth…revealing who He really is & what He wanted from us & specifically from me…

I observed the various local religions surrounding me while living in this exotic far off destination, their beliefs & practices… But all seemed to be even more steeped in burdensome traditions & rituals rather than the spiritual freedom I was searching for…

However, I kept coming back to the ancient script that I had requested from my grandparents…I started to dig into the differing texts within these scripts to broaden the excavation site of my spiritual archeological dig…both in the old testament section & the new testament section…rather than my dig stalling at the site of the begats.

I found so many on site discoveries as I reached each level, going deeper & deeper clearing away the sands of religious traditions…to the raw truth of God & His seemingly mysterious ways…

At the Isaiah 1:11 dig site in the old testament section I discovered that God too, had grown weary of ritualized practices in the past…

“What are your multiplied sacrifices to me?” says the Lord. I have had enough…”

And then I found a treasure in Jeremiah 29: 13…

“..you will seek Me & find Me, when you search for me with all your heart.”

I was so encouraged by these finds, they were tablets of solid script….almost directly answering my questions on this spiritual quest…

At the new testament section of the dig site in Matthew 13:44 I uncovered another site treasure….in the words of Jesus Himself;

“The kingdom of Heaven is like a treasure hidden in the field, which a man found and hid; and from joy over it he goes and sells all he has, and buys the field.” 

Then as I cleared away the sand at Matthew 13: 44 I found verse 45a…

“Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking fine pearls…”

I didn’t quite understand the script & what it was saying but it was about finding rare & precious spiritual treasure…I asked the director of the dig to reveal the fine intricate detail of this find to me…

Then I met two amazing ladies whom you can meet in Penang, Pearl of the Orient  (If you click on the blue highlighted words above you will be able to read an exciting & very inspiring part of this archeological journey that was a direct answer to my request above…)

Well our time has now come to an end, I hope you enjoyed visiting me on our first part of this exciting archeological dig site…Until next time dear friend,

Jennifer

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Penang, Pearl of the Orient

We are going on a trip down memory lane today…I’m so excited that you are here to join me in this time of reflection together over a cuppa…

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I thought we would have a tea that was introduced to me when I lived in Penang…a fragrant Oolong tea & our treat is a local specialty…a crisp sweet delicious peanut pancake, made with coconut milk & cane sugar, that I used to get every market day from a food hawker also known as a Mukken cart, in the Pulau Tikus markets. I do have coffee if you prefer, would you like to try a hazelnut blend…

We are reminiscing in the warm indoors today as it’s a very cold wintery day here in Australia…Now we are seated & enjoying our treats, let’s get started on our journey through time…

Living on Penang Island, Malaysia was a 30 month posting on attachment, many years ago…I absolutely loved the multi cultural experience of this time & immersed myself in learning about the different cultures & languages that surrounded me…Bahasa Malay, Hokkien, Cantonese, Tamil but couldn’t quite master any of the dialects but did learn enough Hokkien for market days…there was also a large expat community with a mixture of Australian, American & English young expats. Our home was across the road from an American boarding school called Dalat…This would become very pivotal in my spiritual journey….

My two older daughter’s who were two & four years of age at this time, loved playing outdoors, having a large shaded, fully fenced & secure yard…being in the beautiful tropics, they did this most of their waking hours. The house we lived in was located between two roads…the frontage was on the main arterial road to Batu Ferringi & the back was a smaller access road leading down to a Kampong (village) & a Hindu temple…

Life there was always so full of interesting activities, especially in this location with Hindu festivals going past our back gate with such vibrant colors in costumes, drums & cymbals…Chinese funerals going in the opposite direction past our front gate with full brass bands leading the way. Being in a Muslim country we often heard the call from the Mosques. Yes life was full of interesting cultural festivals & fascinating practices…

On one of these hot tropical days, my daughters who had been playing in their cubby house ran excitedly inside, to tell me that a Clown was on the back road, I thought this really odd & thought they may have mistaken a person in festival costume going past relating this to the clowns in their story books. When we got out the back though I couldn’t see anyone at all… so didn’t think anymore on the subject…until…

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A few weeks later, two older American ladies called out from the back gate. I soon found out that there had indeed been a Clown visiting Dalat a few weeks earlier…& that some of the neighboring children had had photos taken with the Clown & these were the photos being shown to me now…the ladies thought they may have been my girls in the photo when they saw my girls playing in the yard…I knew who the children were in the photos so pointed them in the right direction & invited them back for a cuppa once their photo delivery was completed…

Let me introduce you to these two amazing women who became very dear friends, mentors & great inspirations, true pearls found in the Orient…they have both passed now but their legacy & influence in my life & my children’s lives is forever an eternal blessing, Betty MitchellMary Lois Chandler whom I knew as Lois…if you click on their highlighted names above, you will be inspired by their amazing lives, (please note; you need to scroll down the page at Lois’ link until you get to her who is the 9th person honored on the list).

A beautiful time of community & friendship followed with Betty, Lois & the other international staff at Dalat, after being invited to a Friday night potluck later that week…

Well my tea & delicious peanut pancake are now finished…I hope you enjoyed our little trip down memory lane & meeting these amazing women…until next time…dear friend…

Jennifer

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Eternity

Welcome dear friend, we are going to have such a wonderful time today, I have already prepared a tray with cups, sugar & milk for us…our treats are waiting…

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I thought as its such a beautiful sunny autumn day we would sit under our front pergola watching the birds who come & visit our garden each morning. This black tea blend has many ingredients including cinnamon & peppercorns…our treat is a toasted banana bread slathered with Lemon butter, made from homegrown lemons.

Our front area is protected from the cold winds as we sit in the filtered sunshine, a Kookaburra has just landed on the branch of our umbrella tree. He laughs his laugh…as I sip my tea, I can definitely taste the cinnamon & the peppercorns…very tasty…perfect with the banana bread.

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This month, was my daughter Candy’s birthday & anniversary, you see she was born sleeping (stillborn) many years ago, so her birthday is also the anniversary of her death. I haven’t had the raw grief of her loss crash over me for a long time… for I know where she & her little brother, my son Benjamin, also born sleeping within a year of his older sister are….both are living in eternity…

How can I be so confident you may ask…is it faith…yes & I would also like to share my very personal experience in the following…from an excerpt from my book…I go to prepare a place for you…..to read this precious & profound experience please click on the following…Excerpt

I hope reading my experience in Excerpt has given you renewed hope & thoughts for deeper reflection of where you may be spending eternity dear friend, you see its a choice. We choose as to where we will spend eternity, its not an automatic event as popular culture would have us believe. We need to be prepared for our eternal existence….my choice is with the Creator of the universe & His Son Jesus…& we need to be prepared for His return…next time I will share how we can do this…

Jennifer

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Relationships

Welcome dear friend, we are sitting in the warmth of our Autumn sun today…under our flourishing Jacaranda tree introduced in Maple tea…

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I have an interesting tea blend called Prince of Wales for us to try & I have baked a Gf Earl Grey tea Date loaf (Recipes)…sliced, still warm & spread with lashings of real Lf creamery butter for our treat…

Prince of Wales tea is a rare treat as I can’t seem to find it readily available in my area…it is a black tea blend that has a roasted nutty flavor…the Earl Grey tea date loaf is so moist & delicious I have put out two slices each! Well now we have our tea, treats & are settled under the Jacaranda, let’s begin our reflection…

My husband & I, have just celebrated our wedding anniversary. We went for a drive out to where we had our first date the other day, a few days before our anniversary, it was through the beautiful ranges we have surrounding the area we live. We took a picnic just like that first date…we chatted about the years we have been married as we drove, the many challenges we have faced over those years, how we have grown, what our dreams & plans for the future are together!

This is called relationship…spending quality time together, chatting about past, present & future dreams…seeing where we have grown & what areas we still need to grow in…raising issues for discussion before they become contentious…is all important.

I believe where a relationship really reveals its truth, is behind the closed doors of the relationship, where only the two dwell…away from others eyes…where mutual respect, kindness, gentleness, dignity, consideration for each other & how one speaks to the other, a relationship of equality (within the differing roles of marriage) & mutual love…is truly demonstrated or not!

For this is true relationship; being kind, considerate, gentle, loving, caring & in giving each other dignity! It should never be controlling & abusive in any way what so ever! (Refer)

You see God Himself does not control anyone in relationship to Himself, He has given each one of us the freedom of choice in relationship with Him, we are free to choose to have that relationship with Him through His Son Jesus or not! So….then….if God the Creator of the universe does not seek to control us in relationship to Himself…then what right does anyone think they have, to control the other in their relationship!

As we sat & ate our picnic lunch, looking out over the most picturesque quaint little country village…we dreamed & planned together, we chatted about our desires for the future individually & as a couple…we wondered where God would lead us & discussed where we are at…in Him…individually & as a married couple at the moment. As we returned home, we felt at one with each other & in Him…having renewed those all important bonds of relationship, friendship & love.

It takes time…to listen to your partner, to give them your undivided attention, to see where they are coming from, to really enjoy their company & to really appreciate them for who they are…the person you fell in love with….to be able to see where you both are within your relationship presently…make time to do this often & regularly…you won’t be disappointed with the results!

Note; If you are being controlled & abused in any way in your relationship, please seek professional help as soon as possible, you need to protect your physical, emotional, mental & spiritual wellbeing! A professional can help you with strategies to address the situation safely…while your partner either gets the help they need (if they seek it) or lives with the consequences of their behavior apart from you…God does not expect anyone to be in a relationship that is controlling & abusive, ever!

Well, with the delightful tastes of the tea & the fruitiness of the loaf still lingering upon my tongue…our sun has moved its warmth… its now time to go inside, until next time dear friend…

Jennifer

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Tea on the 77th Floor…

What an amazing view from up here…welcome dear friend, today I am sharing a special adventure I had with my daughter not too long ago…

I have prepared a lovely hot cuppa for us, depending on what you prefer tea, coffee or maybe a hot chocolate, I have them all…with some Gf cinnamon toast, as its cold today, our Autumn weather has finally arrived, yay…after a prolonged hot summer.

Let me set the scene for our reflection today;

It was a lovely hot summer’s day, when we decided to have an adventure, we often share lovely fun adventures together when visiting, we decided to play tourists for the day, I had not been to the new high rise building, so I was excited for us to share this experience together.

On arrival, we had our tourist photo taken on the ground floor, while waiting for the lift to take us to the 77th called Skypoint, as neither of us were keen to climb the 1,331 steps! Once in the lift, my daughter directed my attention to the ceiling to watch our ascent, we all looked up at the screen, within 42.7 seconds we had arrived! It was like being in a rocket without the effects of the G forces!

As we walked out of the lift & turned left, a breathtaking panorama greeted us, 360 degrees of spectacular views, from coastal views to the horizon, out to the hinterlands in the west…we lazily made our way around taking in the views, chatting & taking photos, as seen above! We ordered lunch & of course I had a cup of Earl Grey tea. The view below us was microscopic…people looked like tiny ants, traffic as toy cars & houses as miniature buildings…even other tall buildings were dwarfed!

Heights & our reactions to them are quite interesting, aren’t they…When I first approached the floor to ceiling windows on arrival, my instant reaction was to back off, this was an involuntary reaction on my part. My brain could not work out its depth perception & had decided I was in danger, so it sent an instant message to my body to react & back away from the perceived present danger before my conscious mind could override it!

We do this in many things don’t we…we find ourselves reacting, recoiling or backing away from a situation before we realize it…whether it’s a person, relationship or a real or perceived danger. This may be a wise & healthy course of action for us at the time, our subconscious mind may have picked up on a danger, that our conscious mind has been too busy or didn’t want to actually acknowledge. However our reactions may also be uncalled for, like mine,  as I wasn’t in danger & was quite safe!

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When we find ourselves reacting in this way, we need to gain a new perspective & look at the bigger picture of how we are feeling & why we are reacting to the situation.  Prayer, God’s wisdom in His word & reflection are my first go too…chatting to our spouse, trusted friend, pastor or professional counselor also may help to bring things into perspective. I find journaling my thoughts down always a worthwhile practice… alternatively art, gardening, craft, listening to music or walking, can all be things, that give us time to process our thoughts & emotions.

We may find an old or new hurt, that hasn’t been totally healed or forgiven, has been triggered & actually has nothing to do with the present person or situation that has triggered these reactions in us. Maybe the situation or relationship has changed & there is a real & present danger to your wellbeing now! Or maybe you are sensing a change in the other party which has bought a different dynamic into the relationship, this may need to be gently approached with them, regarding what you’re sensing, as they may be going through something they haven’t shared with you.

By drawing apart we can sort through these thoughts, feelings & reactions, some will seem insignificant & others will be very significant. Just like the view from the 77th floor you can see the bigger picture once you see the view in its entirety & gain wise insight through a new heavenly perspective!

Well our cinnamon toast is only crumbs left on the plate now, our cups are drained of their refreshment…until next time dear friend…

Jennifer

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Mothering…

Mother’s day is this Sunday here in Australia, so come & join me in a tea party, I do have coffee & other refreshments…if tea isn’t your forte…it is open to all whom have taken on the role of mothering a child at anytime in their lives…

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I would like to share a poem that my eldest daughter gave me many years ago. It was a beautiful artwork she had done of hand sketched Australian native Flannel flowers bordering the poem on parchment paper & she had placed it in a frame for me on Mother’s day 1994. Its colors are too faded now to include here in a photo but the message is still precious…

What is a Mother 

It takes a mother’s LOVE to make a house a home,

A place to be remembered no matter where we roam,

It takes a mother’s PATIENCE to bring a child up right,

And her COURAGE & her CHEERFULNESS to make a dark day bright…

It takes a mother’s THOUGHTFULNESS to mend the hearts deep hurts.

And her SKILL & ENDURANCE to mend little socks & shirts…

It takes a mother’s KINDNESS to forgive us when we err,

To sympathize in trouble & bow her head in prayer…

It takes a mother’s WISDOM to recognize our needs,

And to give us reassurance by her loving words & deeds…

It takes a mother’s ENDLESS FAITH, her CONFIDENCE & TRUST

To guide us through the pitfalls of selfishness & lust…

And that is why in all the world there could not be another,

Who  could fulfill God’s purpose as completely as a MOTHER!

By Helena Steiner Rice

There are many who have stepped up to the plate in a child’s life & been everything mentioned above to that child, given mothering through the hard times, the good times & the messy times! Whether you are the biological, adoptive, step, foster, grandparent or a family kin Mama to that child…Mother’s day is for you to celebrate too!

Enjoy the memories of the good times & whether you see these little or big ones now or not. Know that you made a difference in that child’s life & rest assured God hasn’t forgotten the love, sweat & tears you poured out for them!

You may also enjoy my post, the legacy we leave children in Ginger tea time…

You’re welcome to linger awhile & enjoy more cups of inspiration, there’s plenty of food for thought to choose from! Happy Mother’s Day!

Jennifer

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