Flourishing when all seems lost…

Today we are going on a walk…a walk that revealed such amazing wisdom…we will have our regular cuppa & treat when we return…

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We amble down the boardwalk at the waterfront. This boardwalk winds through a coastal marshy reserve with native ferns, grasses, many beautiful species of Gums & a Koala habitat. The gums are in blossom at the moment, so we can smell their sweet nectar as we wander deeper into the undergrowth. The tide is receding from its high status, so the waves are gently lapping the shore beneath our feet where the boardwalk extends out over the water, covering the sand flats where the Ibis, Egrets & Sandpipers can be seen scouraging at low tide…it’s a beautiful warm Spring day…

As we wander along enjoying the beauty of this amazing water wonderland …we round a bend & just ahead through the foliage we catch a glimpse of a ghostly trunk protruding from the sea. I comment that this beautiful stately Gum, along with two others nearby sadly met their demise in a huge storm we had awhile ago. The ground literally was washed out from under them by the relentless crashing waves, causing them to fall not far from where they had once stood tall in their majestical splendor…

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Then as we draw closer to the ghostly white trunks we notice something extraordinary has happened…there is new growth on two of the three that had fallen, although submerged in saltwater for up to 12 hours a day…a branch has started to take the shape of a new strong & thickened trunk out of the fallen one! It is flourishing in its new circumstances when all had seemed lost!

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How can this be?

On further investigation as the tide ebbs, we notice that it’s roots extend from its fallen trunk & disappear into the solid earth of the shore, where it is obviously drawing the nutrients it needs to counteract being submerged in salt water!

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This is such a poignant lesson…life storms such as betrayal, relationship breakdown, divorce, death of a loved one, loss of a job, cancer diagnosis, chronic illness or a dearly loved child making unwise choices can hit us at anytime & literally wash the ground out from under us causing our resolve to fall, leaving us feeling battered bruised & vulnerable. We may find ourselves submerged in a sea of life change that we neither welcome nor desire.

But if our roots have been growing in fertile ground that has been nourishing us, we will cling to our faith for that extra strength & wisdom in these times. Knowing that our Creator has promised never to leave nor forsake us & we will definitely be able to flourish in this new season with all its tides of change… 

I invite you to share in a cup of Maple tea… where I share how both tree roots & our roots are fascinatingly nourished or not (click or tap on the colored text for the link). 

We are seated now at a picnic table overlooking the water with our delicious cup of Maple tea…, reflecting upon the wisdom of nourishing our soul within the circumstances we find ourselves & growing strong where we are planted…

How are you nourishing the roots of your soul dear friend & how often do you stop to be refreshed…when was the last time you felt truly restored…the ancients left us the following wisdom;

“Watch over your soul with all diligence. For from it flow the springs of life.”

Proverbs 4: 23

Until next time…

Jennifer

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Waiting in the meantime…

Welcome dear friend, so lovely to have you drop by…I have some Pikelets (mini pancakes) with strawberry jam & a dollop of cream for our treat. A delicious cup of Hibiscus & Cranberry tea is also ready & waiting for our time of reflection together…

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Have you noticed that waiting is one of the hardest things to do & can be one of the most frustrating to go through! So why is waiting so difficult for us?

Shall we reflect upon the following…

Waiting can take many forms; waiting for that long awaited child to make their entrance into the world; waiting for that romantic special One to appear; waiting for a promise to be fulfilled; waiting for our prayers to be answered; waiting for healing; waiting for a sea/tree change; waiting for a season to begin or to end in life…just to name a few…

What ever the reason, we are placed in a holding pattern, one where we are constantly circling above the expected hope…this can be very challenging!

Did you know that there is a psychology to waiting! There has been a great deal of psychological research done on this very subject & most come to a similar conclusion on the behavior patterns of those in waiting!

The studies found that when people have an expected time for the outcome of what they are hoping & waiting for the following behavior patterns are observed;

  1. The further away the expected time for the outcome is believed to be ~ the greater the patience exhibited!
  2. The closer the expected time for the outcome ~ the less patient people become & greater the frustration experienced!

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In other words if we think the outcome of our hope is a long way off, we come into an attitude of resigned acceptance…it is going to happen one day in the future…so hope & expectation looks ahead to the positive outcome which nurtures patience in the waiting!

However, if our expectation is that it’s going to happen at any minute…our attitude increasingly becomes impatient & frustrated as time passes & our hope remains unfulfilled. Our hope & expectation turns into fear & anxiety. Which hinder the development of patience…

You may ask…what does patience actually do for us & why do we need to develop it in life? It is actually a critical component for our emotional, mental & spiritual well being as it helps us to persevere through life with resilience. It builds faith & trust in God’s perfect timing for the outcome of our hope.

Rest in the Lord & wait patiently for Him; do not fret… Refer

Let’s take the above example…waiting for that long awaited child to make their entrance into this world. I had five of my own children, so this is a subject I can personalize…five pregnancies is a long time of waiting! However look what amazing development is taking place in the meantime! A little human with all of their potential is being created within! How awesome is that!

When a woman first knows she’s pregnant & given the due date for the birth, she’s excited & hopeful in her expectation…she accepts that in her patient waiting…even with all the morning sickness, discomfort, major changes to her body & the pain of labor…she will be rewarded in due time with the safe arrival of her child.

However what happens when that due date comes & goes! Her attitude of patience starts to wear thin, the longer the time goes past the due date, the more impatient she becomes which eventually turns into frustration. Hot on the heels of frustration come fear & anxiety for the safety of her child which can lead to stress, which in turn impacts both her & her baby.

Our attitude in the waiting either nurtures or hinders healthy emotional & spiritual development…

Shall we ask ourselves…do we need to have an attitude check in our meantime of waiting! Mmmm…something for us to reflect upon dear friend…

I like the following message;

“Let go, relax & know that I am God…” Refer

Until next time…

Jennifer

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Uniquely designed…One of a kind

Welcome dear friend, do you have your favorite beverage & delightful tasty treat ready? You do…

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I have a fruity tea blend of seasonal berries & my tasty treat is a small plate of delicious nuts, dried fruit & cheese. We are sitting under the blossoming lilac flowers of our Jacaranda tree today…the scent of honeysuckle is heavy on the air…

Now we are settled shall we begin our time of reflection together…

I find the topic of personal capacity very interesting & living with chronic health issues have only heightened this interest. I recently reflected upon Knowing your body’s capacity… giving a greater awareness of how differently our bodies function in wellness to that of chronic illness.

But are you aware that each of us has a uniquely designed capacity in the following areas; physical, emotional, cognitive & spiritual. These however do not exist in isolation to each other, they are intricately interwoven to make our overall capacity uniquely ours!

Over my professional life I have had many patients compare their abilities & capacities to others. This left them feeling less than, unworthy, devalued & depressed. Rather than seeing that they were actually living to their own unique capacity to the fullest of measures.

Sadly in this day & age, with the plethora of multimedia highlighting conformity to populist fashion, lifestyles, looks & wellness…we are quite often left feeling deficient in our individual qualities & capabilities in comparison!

Truth; I am not you & you are not me…we can not compare ourself to anyone else…we have been created as One of a kind!

Let me personalize this for you, you may be aware that chronic health conditions have impacted my capacity both physically & cognitively ~ also known as Fibromyalgia brain fog…shared in Listening…  Now if I start comparing myself to others who are living in wellness or may have more energy in their chronic health conditions than I do…I am left wanting & feeling very discouraged…

However, when I reflect upon my own uniquely designed capacities…even in this time of chronic illness with all its Challenging days…my faith & gratitude grow deeper for my Creator…bringing joyful acceptance in who I have been created to be…uniquely Jennifer!

“I will give thanks to You, for I am exceedingly & wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, & my soul knows it very well.” Refer

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It can be fruitful to reflect upon our uniqueness & really start to flourish to our fullest of measures in the season of life we are in…start walking in who you were uniquely created to be…don’t be deceived by those who portray conformity as the pinnacle of success…as you are One of a kind, uniquely designed my friend…Until next time…

Jennifer

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Challenging days…really!

Welcome dear friend! I have a delightful cuppa ready with a delicious treat for our time of reflection together…today we are traveling to scale the steep mountains in the Alps of Life’s Challenges …

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I know that every person that joins me here has days that are more challenging then others. Life has a habit of throwing us challenges that may seem absolutely insurmountable. These challenges can look different for each of us; it may be work related; relationship problems; family issues; financial pressures; grieving over loss; chronic illness; it may be a spiritual crisis or a battle with mental health…& the list could go on…

What ever the challenge, we find it difficult…difficult because it’s taxing on our emotional energy…difficult because we may not want to deal with yet another challenging climb when we are already juggling the ropes from scaling the mountain side of other challenges & we are…let’s face it…already weary!

Weary of challenges taking us outside of our comfort zone…a comfort zone that we are already…well…really comfortable in…And this new (or old) challenge we are facing is really uncomfortable & even a bit scary…in fact it may be down right painful for us to face physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually!

As painful as it may be…Did you know that facing life’s challenges do very important & positive things for our overall mental & spiritual health…Let us examine these…

Life Challenges;

  • Help us to stretch our personal capacities…causing positive growth.
  • Help us to face issues that may have become problematic in our life or the lives of significant Others…ultimately bringing healing.
  • Help us to grow within…building & strengthening our resolve for further more difficult climbs that will inevitably lay ahead in life…strengthening us.
  • Give others who may have already faced similar challenges, the opportunity to come alongside us…creating support & wisdom of community.
  • Forge important coping skills of resilience, patience & tolerance in life…
  • Also give us the opportunity to know what accomplishment feels like when we reach the summit of Mount Challenge…having succeeded.
  • Most importantly create humility…highlighting our need for a deeper relationship with our Creator.

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You see we were created for relationship with God, He desires to be our Anchor in our challenging climbs in life, the One who prepares, assures & fastens the safety gear at the Summit for us to scale the cliffs of Mt Challenge. He also desires to be our Belayer, the One who continually monitors the ropes, taking the slack from the rope during the climb up & making sure there is a continuous supply of rope for a safe descent down the other side of mountain after having succeeded in reaching the summit! However we have to allow the Anchor & Belayer to attach the necessary ropes to our harness for a safe & secure ascent.

Let me personalize this for you, this past week I had a rock shelf experience (where climbers can have a revitalizing break from the ascent) on my climb of Mount Fibromyalgia in the Alps of Life’s Challenges…this rock shelf took the form of three unusually good physical days for me. I was feeling energized, my pain had dropped a few notches & I felt mentally alert with no Fibro fog (shared in Listening…).This was like an alcove of pure bliss & for a moment I allowed myself to take in the breathtaking view from this shelf…a view of my old well self, once again, scaling the heights of wellness.

Then came the day the rock shelf collapsed from under me, the fatigue hit hard, the pain cranked up & the mist of Fibro fog descended…I started to feel myself falling into the abyss of discouragement but then the safety rope caught & held me steady attached to my harness of faith…because I had chosen my Anchor & Belayer (which can be one in the same) to be the Creator God of the Universe & His Son Jesus, He never lets go of the rope & His anchor continues to hold me safe & secure. I know that I will reach the summit one day, I’m assured of it…It is always wise to reflect upon who or what we have anchored ourselves to…

There are those who chose to climb solo, relying on their own strength & experience for the climb & don’t see the need for a safety harness of faith, roped to an Anchor & Belayer…this my friend is a very dangerous journey…solo climbers quite often get part of the way in their ascent on Mt Challenge & become completely exhausted by their efforts, becoming stuck on the mountainside unable to move…this situation has a very high possibility of a tragic outcome…causing severe internal injuries (& as a Clinical Counselor I have seen too many lives devastated in this way)…

I implore you to ponder where you are at & the strategies you are using to scale the Alps of Life’s Challenges…at this point you may find My story interesting…

Until next time dear friend…

Jennifer

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Tea & Tigers in the Highlands of Malaysia…

Hi, lovely to have you drop by…as you enjoyed my last reflection on the Leprosy community in Thailand… I thought I would share another inspiring adventure from the same time period. An adventure that I still find astonishing in its timing & encouraging in its preparation…

green treesTo set the mood, I thought I would brew some black tea & accompany it with a delicious bowl of sweet & crispy coconut rolls for our theme…

The tea is a mellow blend, smooth on the tongue & the coconut rolls are so delicious that you can’t stop at just one! Mmmm…morish!

While working at Dalat School in Malaysia I had the privilege of meeting many visitors from all over the world, on one particular occasion I met an English family  living & working in the Cameron Highlands at the Overseas Missionary Fellowship (OMF) school there, he was the principal & she a teacher. I invited them over for dinner that night & we had a lovely time of fellowship together, their children were a little older than ours but all got on famously. On leaving they invited us to visit & share in their work in the Highlands.

So the next school break, we packed the car, took the car ferry from Penang across the Straits of Malacca to the mainland & headed for the Cameron Highlands…it was a picturesque trip through towns, passing Malay Kampongs (villages), Buddhist & Hindu temples, Mosques, farmland with water buffaloes, rice paddies, pigs, ducks & other animals.

We finally reached the foot of the mountains to start the ascent. The area was so interesting…with tea plantations blanketing the steep slopes of the mountainside. Tea pickers in their colorful Saris balancing baskets full of fresh green leaves from their heads scattered throughout the rows of tea bushes. And little roadside stalls beckoning us to stop every so often, selling fresh produce & handmade curios. The air became noticeably crisper & colder the higher we climbed, which was such a welcomed change after living in the humidity of the tropics…

We finally arrived at our destination which was a quaint old School Masters building from colonial days, complete with a wood heater in the living room & surrounded by the most beautiful English garden. That night we enjoyed a lovely home cooked meal with our new friends & made plans to meet up a few days later for afternoon tea. We were given a warning to be very careful & watchful after dark, as Tigers roamed the surrounding forests!

tiger through green leaves during dayThe next morning as we explored the area & its attractions, while driving I was sure I glimpsed a tiger amongst the bushes enjoying the sunshine! Later that day we heard that a tea worker had been attacked by a Tiger the previous night, not far from the compound where we were staying (the worker had survived)! This news was rather sobering & a little unnerving!

It came time for the afternoon tea with our friends…while sitting around their cosy & warm fireplace, enjoying Devonshire tea together, my new friend started sharing their experience of the loss of their eldest child, who had died at birth…& retrieved a photo album from the shelf to share the photos of their child’s funeral. I’m a bit of a softy so I found this incredibly sad & a little overwhelming at the time (this was before I was clinically counseling). I felt incredibly privileged that they were comfortable to share this heart wrenching & deeply personal experience.

When the time came to say our farewells, my friend handed me a book called Angel Unaware by Dale Evans Rogers, saying she thought I would find it comforting. I thought this a very strange statement at the time but pushed it to one side thinking it had obviously been a comfort to them in their grief & that was what she had meant…

“He comes alongside us when we have hard times, & before you know it,  He brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us. “ Refer

I didn’t get to see these new friends again & sadly we lost contact over time but I can say without a doubt…that this meeting was definitely God ordained! It was a meeting over tea & treats that was a time of preparation for the coming events in my life…ten months later… my daughter Candy was born sleeping (stillborn) & then ten months after that my son Benjamin was also born sleeping (stillborn) shared in Eternity. I did indeed find comfort in my friend’s shared experience & Dale’s story in the book, to know others had been through the death of their child & found strength in God’s comfort was very comforting!

When you look back over your life…can you see definitive moments ordained by God? I would love to hear about them in the comments section below…(or click on the title of this reflection which will take you to its page, where you will find the comment section at the end)…until next time…dear friend…

Jennifer

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Leprosy community in Thailand…

Today we are going to travel back in time to share an encouraging & inspirational adventure that I feel very privileged to have experienced & I know you will find very inspiring…

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I have brewed an interesting tea blend for the occasion; Apple, green & black tea combination with a freshly baked Gf Date loaf (still warm) with lashings of butter. The tea is very different, not sure of the success of this combination with the first sip but it becomes tastier with each ensuing mouthful. The date loaf is ridiculously delicious!

Shall we travel to our reflective destination now…

When I was living & working in Penang, Pearl of the Orient  & while on the archeological quest of Digging for treasure… I was invited to travel to Khon Kaen in Thailand to share in the work amongst those living with the effects of leprosy.

This trip was of immense interest to me….since I was a small child & had first heard the stories of those suffering from Leprosy in ancient biblical texts, my heart had ached for those who were excluded & isolated from their families, friends & communities because of the stigma & fear that this disease incites in communities. Naively, I hadn’t realized back in 1980 that it was still causing havoc in peoples lives to this day!

I traveled on a fascinating train journey, passing farmers working in rice fields with water buffalo, through exotic villages & towns sprinkled with the glorious colors of a tropical country side….from Butterworth, Malaysia to Bangkok, Thailand.

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Then continuing the journey from Bangkok arriving in Khon Kaen to stay with my friend who had given the invitation. The next day we took a drive out to the Leprosy community, which was quite a distance from the city into the county side. The community were very excited to have a new visitor & had prepared a delicious Thai meal to share with us. Afterwards I was given a tour of the compound. It was very impressive in its self sufficiency & ecological sustainability.

Asian vegetables, tropical fruit trees, chickens, fish, goats & pigs were all being farmed & used by the inhabitants of the compound, as well as, the excess being sold to local markets for other provisional needs. I was so impressed with this work & excited that it was now directed & sustained by the community itself!

But the most humbling moment for me…was when it came time for our departure to return to the city. A little lady, with the marks that herald leprosy, walked up to me smiling & carrying a huge basket overflowing with fresh tropical fruit & vegetables, meat & eggs as a gift for me! This was in appreciation for visiting them…She had given me her full week’s food for simply coming to visit…

However my friend informed me, that it wasn’t just a simple visit for this community…it was so much more…it was total acceptance & not rejection, it was the display of love & not recoiling in fear, it was inclusion & not exclusion in socializing over a meal & it was the gift of dignity that the visitation displayed, that had touched the hearts of the whole community…at the time I had not realized the impact that a simple visit to this community would have!

This became a defining moment in my life!

When I returned to Australia…I became an educator for The Leprosy Mission, in between family & work commitments. The Leprosy Mission is a global Christian organization that brings awareness & medical facilitation, dignity & empowerment, social integration, research & resource mobilization with compassion. And they reach half a billion people in the world annually who suffer from this disease!

Bringing awareness to their work, especially here in Australia, became my passion…which led to other amazing adventures that will be shared in future reflections…

This passion has lasted to this day…though I can no longer travel to far off places (reasons shared in Vanilla Rooibos Tea )…I can continue to support this important ministry through prayer & in sharing my own resources.  Over time I have seen Multi Drug Therapy (MDT) become an effective treatment & cure for halting the progression of the disease in the body with research continuing to hopefully one day create a preventative vaccine.

Did you know that there is a diagnosis of Leprosy made every two minutes & that there are over 220,000 new registered cases each year…50% of these cases are children Refer. Some are from the poorest countries in the world but others are in our own countries! So much food for thought…

This lady’s generosity continues to impact my life to this day…let us be mindful of the lasting effects that a simple gesture can have…a visit, a gift of love & the sharing of a meal…until next time dear friend…

Jennifer

Please note; I do not get any type of professional or personal financial reward for sharing this experience. 

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When we have nothing left to give…

Have you ever arrived at a place in your life where you are so worn out that you have literally nothing left to give…it doesn’t matter how hard you try….no…there’s just no energy left…

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Today I have arrived at that destination, so I am going to be very wise & kind to myself by savoring a lovely hot cup of caramelized orange tea with some fruit chips & put my feet up to rest, refresh & restore….while you have fun…click or tap on any of the following colored titles to be transported to a place where you can join me in a delightful time of tea & reflection…

You see when we come to that place of complete exhaustion whether physically, spiritually, emotionally or mentally…or may be all four at once…it is very important to realize that we need to take care, to rest, refresh & restore…this especially allows God to…

Be our shepherd, supply for us, giving us a sweet place to lie our weary bodies & a calm peaceful place to restore our souls…to guide us forward into what He has for us, in His will for our lives, to give Him glory…Refer

Well I hope you enjoyed being transported to our time of reflection today, it was so lovely to have you drop by…Until next time dear friend…

Jennifer

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What do we do with Heartache…

It comes to us all…doesn’t it…

Welcome dear friend, it’s time for us to sit & enjoy a cuppa, while we reflect upon some of the more difficult issues in life…

pexels-photo-371433.jpegGrab your favorite beverage & tidbit of deliciousness…I’m having a cup of Chai tea made with almond milk & a bliss ball made from raw cocoa, almond meal, dates & coconut…mmmm…Delicious!

Heartache, heartbreak, sadness of heart or heart brokenness are all a part of life on planet earth…you too may have had your fair share of it, maybe it was a lost love; or a betrayal from a once special someone; or it may have been the death of your loved one or one who you didn’t get the chance to show love to…as is part of my story which can be read in The Marie Antoinette tea

Whatever the cause of the agony of heart, it can be excruciatingly painful! I remember when my late husband lost his life to brain cancer, as I wept the night of his passing…my heart physically hurt because I was in such agony in losing my dear sweet gentle man…

But heartache can also come to us out of concern for others…we may get the sudden news from a dear friend or family member, that they are now facing a life changing & difficult situation…it may be a devastating diagnosis; or it may be a fatal or near fatal accident with life changing injuries; or the consequences of unwise choices in their life; or it may be a financial issue that will now severely impact their lives…the list could go on…but our heart truly aches for them…

Our first reaction may want to take this pain from them…or we may want to try & fix it…or help them in whatever way possible…& yes these are all noble thoughts to our initial reaction…but are they the correct ones for the situation?

Actually this is the time that we need to stop reacting & think very carefully & wisely about the type of support that is actually needed…the other person may need us to just be…to be praying for them in what they are now facing, to be sensitive to their need to act & react in their new situation, to be available for them to share how they are feeling or not feeling & to be giving them much needed time to themselves to grasp, grieve & adjust to this major life changing circumstance… otherwise we can actually be a hindrance to them!

We also need to allow God to do His work in the situation, as the following ancient script wisely tells us;

“For I will turn their mourning into joy & will comfort them, & give them joy for their sorrow.” Refer

We can offer & give them much needed love, emotional support & care….& assurance that we are there for them, upholding them in prayer, as they face this new norm but it is not our place to take it away, fix it or take over the situation for them…

We can offer support in many ways but please allow them to have the freedom to either graciously accept or refuse any practical offer of support without any offence being taken…as none would be intended.

Well that brings us to the end of our reflection for today…I hope this has given you some food for thought…Until next time dear friend…

Jennifer

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Knowing your body’s capacity…

Welcome, today we are doing something slightly different, I am going to share my professional & personal experience…to bring awareness to issues that many are living with…

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So grab your beverage of choice & a treat you love & sit with me, while I share the following & we reflect upon it together…

If you have been traveling with me here on this journey, then you may be aware that I am a registered & qualified Clinical Counselor & Supervisor (Meet Jennifer). Counseling chronically ill patients in pain management therapies & coping strategies was a part of my career for many years…

I would often be asked by my patients on how they could explain their chronic illness to their family & friends?  This is a tricky one, especially in the chronic health conditions of Fibromyalgia (FM) & Chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) including many other chronic conditions where the patient looks well! My advice to them, at that time, was to be honest in what they were experiencing to the Significant Others in their lives.

Then I became chronically ill, you may like to read Vanilla Rooibos Tea … At first I would explain what I was experiencing with FM, to those who asked, in the following way; that FM was like having the worse flu you have ever had in your life, with all the aches & pain wracking your body…without the coughing & runny nose…the intensity may lessen or increase but the pain & fatigue is constantly there…

I have noticed over the last few years, that many ways of describing how depleted energy levels are felt in chronic health conditions have surfaced on the Internet, especially with FM/CFS. The most popular one is the Spoon analogy but there has also been the Laptop & the Mobile Phone battery analogies put forth. Which have worked for the person/s using them.

But I wanted an analogy to give to my patients on how the body acts physiologically within chronic illness & how this impacts us psychologically.

Thus, I was bantering this back & forth with a professional colleague of mine one day & we agreed upon the following concept…

The “Well” battery verses the “Chronically ill”  battery… 

The well person’s body battery in its 100% capacity is used in the following way;

30% energy is used for the normal functionality of the autonomic systems of the body, such as the cardiovascular, nervous, respiratory, gastrointestinal systems, neurological functions & cognitive processing etc…

+30% energy is used for work loads in working life,

+30% energy is available for socialization, relationships & emotions,

+10% energy reserve to draw upon for support when needed = 100% capacity.

 

The chronically ill person’s body battery in 100% capacity (which remember may not always be actually at 100%!) is used in the following way;

75-85% energy is used for functionality of autonomic systems of the body to try & function normally, while being severely impacted by the physiological stress of the chronic health condition/s…

+15-25% energy is used for work, relationships, socialization & emotions.

No energy reserve left, as already being used to prop up the above areas! = 100% capacity

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Thus you can see that energy levels are severely hampered by chronic ill health. This is why we are always fatigued, this is why our emotional capacity becomes depleted very quickly,  this is why our cognitive processing can be compromised, also known as mind/fibro fog (please read Listening… ) & our ability to socialize, greatly limited! And why so many of us have to lessen our workloads or stop work all together. And why our Significant relationships need to have great kindness & understanding.

The body will always prioritize its energy into the autonomic systems to function, as near as possible, to normal healthy system capacity, to keep us alive!

This knowledge helps us to become wiser within our own body’s capacity & capabilities. Knowing the above concept helps us to be kinder in our expectations of ourselves & our capabilities within chronic health conditions! We are operating at greatly depleted levels of energy for living our lives. It also helps us to prioritize & pace ourselves in the activities in which we choose to participate in, on any given day to live our new normal.

I hope this has been informative & helpful to you, whether you are living in wellness or in Chronic ill health, we need to be kinder in our expectations of others & ourselves but at the same time live the fullest life we can within our own body’s capacity…You may enjoy reading my Berry tea & expresso coffee…

Until next time dear friend…

Jennifer

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Having a whale of a time!

Hi, it is so lovely to have you drop by…You are very welcome to join me in a time of reflection, while we enjoy an old fashioned cuppa together….

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I have an Apple & cinnamon tea blend for us to try today & gf Lemon glaze muffins, freshly baked for us, it is a beautiful spring day here, so we will go & sit in the garden to enjoy the warm sunshine, listen to the bird Symphony & see the colorful blossoms.

The Apple tea comes from Japan, a gift from my granddaughter… It is a refreshing blend, the taste reminds me of an apple pie & a perfect accompaniment to the Lemon zest in the muffins…As we enjoy this delightful setting, shall we reflect awhile…

Recently, I took a 1000km flight to spend some time with my second born for her birthday, she turned 40… We spent a lovely weekend celebrating this milestone in her life. Last time we spent time together we had Tea on the 77th Floor…

This time for a birthday treat we shared a holiday apartment, which had 180° views of the coastline, beach & the sea (as seen above)…The views were absolutely breathtaking & constantly demanded our attention. We both love the sea & whale watching…so this was the perfect spot for us.

Southern Humpback whales are now migrating South, down our coastline… returning to the Antarctic to their summer feeding grounds for a Krill fest…after delivering their calves in the warmer waters of Northern Australia.

Each time my daughter & I get together we go whale watching, hoping to see a rare glimpse of these beautiful & magnificent animals breaching, meaning a full body leap out of the water in playful exaltation…we hadn’t ever seen this in all the times we had gone shore whale watching together, we had seen many misty blowhole sprays, tail splashes, pectoral fin slaps on the water but never breaching…

So, I prayed a small prayer request to the Lord for a whale to breach for my daughter’s 40th birthday… As we waited & watched from our 5th storey balcony, we became very focused upon what we were looking for…We saw many blow hole sprays, then some pectoral fin slaps & then…all of a sudden…a Humpback female & her calf breached together in perfect unison…What a spectacular sight!

HUMPBACK WHALE

As we were focusing upon that spot again, we missed another one breaching… just catching a glimpse of the huge splash in our peripheral vision….over the weekend we lost count of how many times the whales breached! I thanked the Lord for His gracious answer to prayer. He definitely answers even the smallest requests of a Mama’s heart for her daughter’s birthday enjoyment…in the most amazing way!

As I reflected upon our weekend, I realized…we can become so focused, at times, upon one particular area of our life…As my daughter & I did above with the female & her calf…hoping to see the same again…that we can miss what God is doing in the other important areas of our lives…

Do not call to mind the former things, Or ponder things of the past. Behold, I will do something new, Now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it? Refer

We need to ask ourselves, dear friend…are we so focused upon the area we want God to do the same action as He did before, that we are completely missing the amazing new thing He is already doing or about to do…Mmmmm…food for thought…Don’t you think!

Until next time…

Jennifer

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