Welcome my friend! We’re going to have to enjoy a lovely cuppa by the virtual waterfront today as we’re in lock down here.
The insidious, highly virulent Delta variant of CoVid has silently invaded our community & schools.
Where it has now set it’s sights on the younger generation!
Our whole region has been sent into a snap lock down… again!
One could feel very resentful of this pandemic!
A pandemic that has us constantly living in a reality similar to a Sci-fi movie with its first, second & third waves of an alien force!
A force that we can’t see but keeps morphing into an increasingly stronger foe pushing back against all our lines of defence!
A force that has indelibly changed our lives.
Let’s make this personal;
All the children, teachers, staff & their families in these schools threatened by this invasion are now in 14 days of isolation/quarantine including five of my family members!
My granddaughter’s wedding is in a few weeks but we are locked out of her state because of Delta!
And the long awaited visit with my grandson’s who also live in that state is now postponed until…I have no idea!
It is a of great concern when this foe is threatening our families!
And it’s really emotionally painful when we miss out on precious family time & events.
Yes, I could get very resentful indeed! But…
Resentment leads to a darker side of life
Being a Clinical Counsellor I have crossed paths with many people who were resentful.
It may have been resentment from a current or past hurt, maybe from a soured relationship or a traumatic event (including a pandemic).
Whatever the cause, life from that point is only viewed through a dark lens of resentment.
In other words everything gets filtered through that hurt, shading life in a negative veil of emotional pain.
This not only greatly impacts one’s quality of life but also the lives of others!
Let’s look at what living in resentment does…
Living in Resentment
Maybe someone or something really hurt us. Which caused deep emotional pain.
This emotional pain may even have been truly traumatizing.
But here’s the problem with holding onto emotional pain…it binds us to that hurt or the person who hurt us!
And it will continue to bind us to that traumatic event & time period until we release it.
Resentment holds us captive!
And all our relationships will be tainted by that resentful attitude.
Because when resentment is held it doesn’t stagnate it morphs, just like CoVid has morphed into a stronger variant.
Resentment morphs into bitterness.
“…Stephen Diamond, Ph.D., defines bitterness as;
“a chronic and pervasive state of smoldering resentment,” and regards it as “one of the most destructive and toxic of human emotions.”
If we repeatedly ruminate over how we’ve been victimized, “nursing” wrongs may eventually come to define some essential part of who we are.
Take hold of our very personality. We’ll end up becoming victims not so much of anyone [or anything] else but of ourselves.” Ref
Bitterness is one of the most destructive & toxic human emotions.
Bitterness can become so entrenched that as Dr Diamond states above it will take hold of that person’s very personality…they end up becoming victims not so much of anyone else but of themselves!
The need to let go
If you see yourself here as the One who has held onto hurt, no matter how big or small & know its morphing or already has morphed into toxic resentment.
Then its time to let go my friend. And there’s no time like the present.
And before you think,
‘Jennifer you don’t know what you’re asking’,
I can tell you my friend that I have been at the cross roads of choosing to hold on to hurt/pain or release it many times throughout my life. More shared here in Forgiving the Unthinkable
But each time I stood at that cross roads, I came to the realisation that one road led to the death of me as a person & the other led to life!
How to let go
The way that really works is;
Go to a place where you can be alone.
Next have a chat with our Heavenly Father in Prayer.
Share with Him your emotional pain & resentment over what’s troubling or hurting you.
Write down that pain on a piece of paper & then burn that paper, as a physical symbol that you have truly released it to the Lord.
Then allow the Holy Spirit to fill the space where that hurt previously occupied with His supernatural peace.
For we are implored to,
“Let all bitterness, anger, rage, bad temper, resentment, quarreling & malice of any kind be released… becoming kind, tender hearted, compassionate, understanding, forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you.”
Ephesians 5: 31-32
This is our fourth post in the Hidden Series.
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