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Emotional contagions!

Hi ya, welcome to my abode dear friend. Our topic for today’s reflection is Other’s emotions that can become extremely contagious…

It has been raining & cold here for days so the best spot for our reflection is indoors, we have moved our living room furniture around so as to allow more light through our full length windows, as a 3 seater sofa was blocking a great deal of natural light from entering.

I have our tray of goodies resting on the coffee table… Now we are seated in our  brighter living room let’s begin reflecting upon these emotional contagions.

I’ll set the scene for you to give you an example of what I mean…

You are spending the weekend with a friend, you have jointly rented a two bedroom ground floor beachside holiday apartment…you have had a delightful time chatting, eating, catching up & enjoying time together.

You are now off to your respective rooms for much needed sleep as it has been a long road trip to meet up midway between states.

You’re feeling peaceful as you go through your bedtime routine looking forward to the nice soft bed that is in this holiday apartment which you discovered last time.

You have brought a novel that you have been longing to read. You just settle into reading in the big comfy bed. All seems right with the world in that moment.

Then the serenity is broken with a loud noise, followed by your friend knocking on the door…fear & anxiety is on her face as you open it…she thinks there’s a man outside banging on her Window!

Having heard the loud noise yourself, you know something is going on…though her fear & anxiety is permeating the atmosphere…

You don’t want it to affect you but you send a little prayer up as you walk gingerly to her room to investigate with her hot on your heels.

You turn her bedroom light off so you can get a good line of sight once you peek through the closed blinds. But before you do another loud bang pierces the silence of the room, startling you both!

This time your heart starts to beat a little faster

Your friend by this time is shaking with fear & anxiety clearly heard in her whispers…But you’re determined to get to the bottom of this…

You peek through the blinds…the inky blackness of the wintery night makes it difficult for your eyes to adjust, then another loud bang, you’re sure your friend is ready to pass out…

As your eyes adjust you see the shadowy shape of the perpetrator close to the Window, he’s huge…your heart is beating faster now… he pulls back to bang on the Window again…allowing the light from the distant street lamp to shine upon him… revealing his identity…

It’s a young willow tree swaying in the wind, hitting the window with each blasting gust! You both giggle with relief! And your friend’s laughter is overlaid with nervous embarrassment.

Fear & anxiety can cause one to envisage all types of scenarios that jump to a worse case scenario!

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Another’s fear & anxiety can be very contagious…If we allow it to be! It is very unwise to enter their world of fearful & anxious imagings!

Though this can be particularly difficult when our loved one’s share their concerns, fears & anxieties with us which are founded in real life circumstances.

As you may know I have been working in Mental Health for many decades & I have the professional skill set to be able to help those whose lives have been impacted by fears, anxieties & depression.

But when it comes to my loved ones, because I don’t wear my professional hat with them it can be quite challenging…as I shared in Concern, worry & anxiety…

But there are certain steps we can take that greatly help…

  • We can listen
  • We can validate their concerns…

Every one likes to be heard & validated, not dismissed.

We don’t need to enter their fears, anxieties or worse case scenarios to validate their real concerns

We just need to show them love in that their concerns are real for them. And to recognize that the way they’re feeling is impacting them.

We can also offer love, support & of course that listening ear over a cuppa.

Helping another to share their burden does not mean taking it completely over. There is a distinction between helping to lighten a load & taking it on as your own!

Jesus said, “Help one another, bearing [having enduring compassion for] one another’s burdens…” Galatians 6:2

Please note, if your friend or loved one has fears, anxieties & depression that have overtaken their life & need professional help please encourage them to seek it as soon as possible.

Do you listen & validate your loved one’s concerns or do you tend to invalidate them?

Until next time,


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36 thoughts on “Emotional contagions!

  1. I appreciate that you don’t always act as a counselor to your friends and family. Someone in our extended family is a professional counselor and always “on,” giving unasked for advice. The problem is, she assumes instead of listening enough to hear someone out.

    I appreciate what you say here. I think what people want most when they share problems is support and a listening ear. I especially like this: “Helping another to share their burden does not mean taking it completely over. There is a distinction between helping to lighten a load & taking it on as your own!”

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  2. Great post, Jennifer! It IS so important to listen and offer validation without getting entangled. I walk that tightrope every day in my job, sometimes well, and others not so well! I appreciate this reminder!

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  3. I love your story example. Even more so I appreciate your practical tips. When I am anxious, I especially need to feel heard and validated, even if I am being dramatic. Thank you for linking up with Grace and Truth this week!

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  4. Well done! We have an autistic son and have learned how valuable validating his emotions can be in helping redirect those emotions.
    I think this is also very important for us women who can sometimes feel a bit at the mercy of our emotions.

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  5. Oooh this is very insightful – thank you for this! Fear can be just as contagious as a yawn… and like others have mentioned, I’m definitely prone to try to sweep in and solve everything rather than just listen first. Something for me to work on, for sure.

    Thank you for this great post. x

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