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The last, I love you!

If you joined me here last week then you know that I shared,  Receiving that phone call we all dread!

As I became physically stronger over the proceeding days I knew I had to seize the window of opportunity to travel, to see & be with my loved ones at this critical time.

My dear hubby accompanied me, as the main driver, for our long road trip south.

I have two loved ones from the same household in hospital! Both urgently arriving by Ambulance a few days apart. And are patients in two different hospitals due to there differing medical needs.

But let’s pause here, as I need to grab a cuppa, a treat & get comfy before we proceed as its been a huge few weeks.

I have a Russian Caravan tea with an Apricot & coconut slice to munch upon. What do you have?

Now we’re comfy…let’s continue…

Unfotunately, the hospital visiting hours were at the exact same time for both loved ones in the different hospitals, in different towns of the same region. We stayed in a little village in between.

An Emotional time

It was a marathon effort to visit both on the same days within the same time slot!

But I felt it was extremely important to see them each day that I was there. 

Hubby heroically drove me to, fro & in between the hospitals through city traffic each day to spend precious time with my significant loved ones.

This enabled me to focus my limited energy on spending time with them. 

Both were relieved to see me, as I was to see them. One mentioned that they thought they were never going to see me again because I had been so unwell to travel.

It was absolutely heartbreaking to see both of them under these circumstances. But such a precious one on one time with each.

When it came time for me to leave the one who is most critically ill, I said to them that we would try & get down as soon as I was able again. This loved one said the following…

“No, this will be the last time I will see you. We won’t see each other again now until we’re in heaven together…” 

You can only imagine the overwhelming emotions I had within that moment.  Heart rendering expressions of love were exchanged between us, significant words spoken.

None of us know our exact time but we all do have a time…

“Since each of our days are already determined, & the number of our months is wholly in Your [God’s] control & we cannot pass the bounds of our allotted time…” Job 14:5

We truly need to appreciate the time that is given to us & think about the legacy we’ll leave behind when our time does come!

Let me ask you the following dear friend;

  • Are you leaving love in your wake?
  • Or is it a legacy of your unresolved anger, frustration & bitterness towards others? 

You see we don’t have control over anyone else’s choices, behavior, actions or reactions towards us.

But we do have control over our own choices, behavior & reactions towards others!

And personally I choose love, God’s love! A legacy which is far more lasting & reaching then any human love!

God’s love & forgiveness shines through

God’s peace & serenity is now clearly present in both of these loved ones, whom have personally found His love & grace for themselves. 

We never know when we’ll say ‘I love you,’ for the last time.

Since losing two of my children & my late husband, I make it a priority to end every conversation & contact I have with all my loved ones expressing my love for them in some form or another. 

I love you!

It’s the last phrase hubby & I say to each other each time we part & the last thing we say at night. Leaving no words that may have been uttered in frustration to linger!

Instead leaving love as the last word between us.  This is the legacy to leave our dear loved ones my friend. 

Until next time, 


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34 thoughts on “The last, I love you!

  1. I’m so sorry. 😦 And you make a very valid point-saying I love you should be a legacy that we leave. I say I love to my kids every time our visits end, even if there is some bickering or tension because we are not promised tomorrow. So, I want those words to be the last thing they hear me say. Thank you for sharing this.

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  2. You are so right! For quite a few years I have lived with a desire to have no regrets in my relationships because we never know what might be just ahead in our own life or the life of the other. Saying what is important, what matters is vital. Too many say it at memorial services when it was far more important to say it when the person was alive. What a gift to be well enough to go see your dear ones! May you sense the Lord’s sweet comfort.

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  3. Oh my! Hearts are so tender yet they beat…beat…beat, keeping the blood pumping throughout our bodies. But they are our emotional centers too! I am sorry and hold you and your family in my prayers. I understand in my own ways with my Mama. I knew the time was short and read a letter to Mama on her last night where tears and laughter were keys to my eventual healing. Then when I lost Kenneth, my husband, two years ago, I found myself telling people to tell people how much you love them all the time! Thank you for reminding me of the preciousness of life.

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  4. Jennifer, so sorry to hear of this difficult time of grief for you! My prayers have been with you, and how wonderful that you were able to visit these dear ones. Please know I will be praying for you in the coming days! Wishing you the peace that passes all understanding, my Friend.

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  5. “And personally I choose love, God’s love! A legacy which is far more lasting & reaching then any human love!” Me, too, Jennifer! I also find it so important to say “I love you!” Love and blessings to you!

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