Do you jump in where Angels fear to tread?

Welcome my friend! I thought we would reflect upon our loved Ones & how our hearts can hurt for them when difficulties impact their lives through unexpected circumstances & what we can do to help.

First, let’s grab our cuppa’s, treat & get comfy before we begin.

I’m enjoying a gf Coconut Macaroon with a mug of Chai Latte this morning, both delicious! What are you having?

Our Family

Hubby & I have a large combined family, we have six daughters between us plus their spouses plus 12 grandchildren, one grandson in law & are expecting our first great grandchild!

So you can see we have a very big immediate family not including extended family.

We are both retired, so we have time to reflect upon life together & do this often over breakfast, morning tea or on our walks by the waterfront.

We dearly love every individual in our combined family & each unique family unit within it.

We’ve watched our respective daughters grow into their own lives with their own families & navigate life as best they can.

We are now watching our older grandchildren enter adulthood & navigate life in the lifestyles they’re choosing to live.

When circumstances impact our families

One thing I’ve learnt in the decades I’ve been on planet Earth is that life has a habit of throwing unexpected circumstances our way, while some come completely out of left field others, sadly, some from the consequences of unwise choices.

As we go through life we can learn a great deal from both sets, if we are willing.

Those of us who choose to learn these lessens from the hard yards of life have what’s called life experience & yes this often culminates in a certain amount of wisdom.

Life wisdom

I think the most difficult thing for any of us to have to do is watch our families face difficult & often heartbreaking circumstances.

Our instant reaction is to take action, often jumping straight in to help.

low angle photography of man jumping

But this isn’t always the wisest nor necessarily the most welcomed course of action to take. For our help may need to take another form.

This is where we need to Pause…

There’s an old saying which is quite sobering & it goes like this (paraphrased);

‘ The unwise often rush in where Angels fear to tread…’

The original quote by Alexander Pope c. 1711

The meaning of this gem is that when dealing with other’s, even our families, we need to be very wise.

And consult God in what type of help we give, what it may look like & the boundaries of it.

Wisdom is to Pause before we act or react…

Why the Pause?

Because if we unwisely rush in to ‘help’ we may get in God’s way to do His work in the situation.

Many years ago I read a book on Wisdom by Dr Larry Lea, it was on God’s wisdom.

The most poignant gem from that book which has stayed with me all these years is the following;

‘…As long as you are holding on to any other person and are unwilling to commit that person COMPLETELY to the watch care of God, you are impeding the work that God can do in that person’s life.’ Refer II

You may be thinking, well that’s not what I’m doing Jennifer, I just want to help out! Let’s see what else Dr Lea had to say.

He goes on in the following manner;

‘…as long as you are trying to be “God” for your family members -to be their source of supply, to be their source of love, to have all their trust wrapped up in you [in your help]…then God’s work in YOUR life is also impeded.’ Refer II

Hmmm, a sobering & thought provoking statement, don’t you agree?

Please note, I’m not saying here not to offer a helping hand.

Rather I’m sharing what I’ve learnt, especially with a large family of adult children with their own families, is that we need to pause & consult God first before taking the next step.

Particularly on what He would have us do in the situation, if anything, other then being a very important prayer support & cheerleader for our families.

For He may be moving in ways we can not see or even realise!

We also need to remember that God loves our families above & beyond what we can possibly know or imagine.

And by rushing in to “help” without Pausing & gaining His wisdom there’s every likelihood we will get in His way!

For Psalm 127: 1-3 tells us (paraphrased);

‘Unless the Lord builds the family, the builders labor in vain.

Unless the Lord watches over the family, we stand guard in vain…

 …Children are a heritage from the Lord, they’re a reward from Him.’ 

So may we Pause & seek God’s wisdom before rushing in where Angels fear to tread without His wisdom & guidance.

Until next time,

Jennifer

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32 thoughts on “Do you jump in where Angels fear to tread?

  1. EsmeSalon's avatar EsmeSalon

    Hi Jennifer. So true, we need to speak with care and tactfulness in order to avoid words or behavior that could be offensive or upsetting to others and we need to know when to do and how to proceed. With two adult children of our own, with kids of their own, we as grandparents try our best to not overstep boundaries. It’s not always easy, but will help when they ask for it.
    Thank you for sharing your various links with us at #275 SSPS Linky. Hope to see you again next week.

  2. strengthwithdignity's avatar strengthwithdignity

    Sound wisdom, Jennifer, and a beautiful prayer from our hearts, “So may we Pause & seek God’s wisdom before rushing in where Angels fear to tread without His wisdom & guidance.”

  3. Dee | GrammysGrid.com's avatar Dee | GrammysGrid.com

    Life sure has obstacles at times and hard ones too – my childhood for example. Now days I find myself hovering over my grandbabies, wanting the best possible life for them. I know I need to back off a bit and let them venture into adulthood as I stand by and watch but they know their Grammy and Pops are always here for them as long as God lets us be here. Thanks so much for linking up at the #UnlimitedLinkParty 126. Pinned.

  4. Jennifer, such wise words here. We’re learning with both of our sons that our time for giving them advice is past . . . unless they ask for it. I am seeing more and more the importance of prayer over our two young men. They appreciate ways that we show we love them without “interfering” without their invitation if that makes sense. I still sometimes fall into “helping” and giving advice, which I see as being done through a filter of love. But they see it as though I don’t believe they can handle the situation (whatever it is). I’m learning to ask if they want my insights. If they don’t, I accept that willingly.

    1. Thank you Jeanne. 😊 Yes, it’s a difficult learning curve for us Mamas but a very important one to leave our adult children in God’s hands.

      Prayer is so very, very critical for them & us, accomplishing more then we can ever think or imagine (& I have a pretty good imagination as I’m sure you do too!). 😉

  5. I have two friends who approach this from opposite angles: one is a self-proclaimed fixer and has to jump in immediately to attempt to fix a problem, but I’ve discovered that she often makes it worse, regardless of her good intentions. But the second friend will just stay present with me, and be supportive of me as I work through it; she’s been a lifeline! I’m trying to learn from them both on what to do and what NOT to do. 🙂

  6. Beautiful words of wisdom indeed. We do need to be careful that our desire to help does not become a barrier between the person and what the Lord is doing in his/her life. And sometimes the help is simply not appreciated, especially if it is not asked for.
    By the way, I made some G/F double chocolate muffins tonight and they turned out so good that I ate 3, but without a cuppa.

  7. This is precisely where God is working with me right now. In fact recently concerned over a job loss in the family I heard “watch me work in her life.” That was very consoling.

  8. God has the big picture, we don’t know what He is doing and how He is working in circumstances. Thank you for this timely post, sweet friend!

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