Emotional processes…

Welcome, today is a special day for reflection, I am so glad you dropped by for our time of sharing together…

I have been given a beautiful gift, by my daughter, personally carried all the way from the Palace of Versailles in France. It is a tea dedicated & blended in Marie Antoinette’s honor, Queen of France 1755 – 1793. It is a black Ceylon tea flavored with apples & roses picked from the King’s Kitchen Gardens in Versailles!

As I open the pretty pink & gold box, I am meet with the beautiful sweet fragrance of freshly cut roses.  I brew the tea, I have my regal setting ready, used for special occasions, a treat of Gf double choc brownie with fresh strawberries awaits.

I lift the cup to have the first taste of this royal blend, the brewed fragrance is now a mixture of sweet apples & roses, melding with the aromas of chocolate & strawberries.

This is a delightful sensory experience, the tea is very delicate & tasty, a very smooth blend, the combination is so pleasing… I pour a second cup, while I enjoy my treat in purposeful reflection…

This special occasion is my son Benjamin’s birthday…however he won’t be joining me to celebrate today, as it is also the anniversary of his passing. You see he was born sleeping (stillborn) many years ago.

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I no longer grieve a life not lived, though I do find myself quite thoughtful at this time, each year…I like to remember him in contemplative reflection, with a special cup of tea & a tasty treat…it is healing.

You see you never get ‘over’ the loss of a child or loved one but rather you come to a place of acceptance in processing your grief & live in that acceptance…accepting that he lived within, he died & I am absolutely assured of seeing him again through the promises of being born anew of the Spirit.

Over the years, I have had the privilege of sharing my story many times, to many people, in many different places both as a guest speaker & face to face. However, I had not written about my experience for publishing… in 2017 I launched my second book;

“I go to prepare a place for you….” *

This is the story of my son Benjamin & my daughter Candy who were both born sleeping…within a year of each other including my near death experience in giving birth to Benjamin.

The book was written in their memory to honor them. Just as The Marie Antoinette tea has been specifically blended in her honor & is a delicate blend for a delicious tea experience.

This exercise was very therapeutic, being able to put these important experiences of my life & the lives of my family into a book that blended writing, publishing & hand compilation was a very pleasant healing experience.

It is healthy to grieve a life lost & acknowledge that they are gone from your life, it is okay to honor & remember them, you may like to visit the grave with fresh flowers or be in quiet reflection in the time you set aside. You may find writing your story therapeutic, this is a healthy way of processing grief.

These activities remember & honor those who have gone before us & help our own grief to heal.

However, being stuck in any particular area of grief ~ eg. anger, deep sadness, fear of the future without your loved one, blame, denial, regret, or an overwhelming feeling of loneliness, for a prolonged period of time, not processing your grief, isn’t healthy.

If you find that this has happened to you, please seek professional help…so you can live the abundant life you were created for & your loved one desired you to live…

Well my brownie & strawberries were delicious, our time of reflection together has now come to its end…

Until next time dear friend…

Jennifer

 

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* John 14:2

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  1. What a precious way to honor your children who are waiting for you in eternity. It made me wonder if you have ever looked at the lyrics or listened to the song, “Glory Baby” records by Watermark that speaks of their own loss of children before they ever had a chance to grow up. When my daughter miscarried, it was a song that spoke to her heart. Blessings on your day!

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    1. No, I dont know that song but will look it up shortly. Thank you…

      I’m saddened to hear of your loss, a miscarriage is just as traumatizing to all the family members involved.

      I had a beautiful experience of the hope we have, but I won’t share that just yet as I have included the full amazing experience in my little book.
      Sending God’s blessings of love & peace,
      Jennifer

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  2. We have a one day retreat at our church each year for people who have lost a child whether before birth, at birth, or after birth. I was privileged to provide hospitality at one of these and treasured how those with long ago losses could accompany those with more recent ones. I’m glad that you are able to provide hope for others.

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  3. Such a lovely tribute to your dear babies, Jennifer…I’m sending lots of love, hugs and prayers. My youngest daughter lost two babies too. Elizabeth and Jennifer are their names. I keep a little basket of potpourri, a palm leaf cross and two angels on my china closet in their memory. One day, we shall all meet again. xo

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    1. Thank you Bette, your wishes & prayers are greatly appreciated.

      That is a lovely way to remember your granddaughter’s. That would be very special for your daughter to know you have remembered them in that way too.
      Blessings to you,
      Jennifer

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  4. As a fellow tea drinker, I love the concept of your blog! The writing is great and i love the pix! We mix our own blends of loose teas to create our specialties here at my house and all six of us love a warm cup on a cold day. You ought to share recipes and links to tea sites. that’d be wonderful

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  5. Hi Jennifer, Thank you for inviting me to come visit your blog. I’ve never been before and I love it! The Lord has gifted you with a lovely writing style. And what a gift your daughter brought back for you!

    And now you are turning your profound grief into a gift for others by sharing your heart and offering encouragement.

    It was such a blessing to visit your sweet your blog.

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