Blogging celebrations!

It’s anniversary time! You’re welcome to join me in a delightful pot of tea & a scrumptious treat…

Today we have a delicious gf Hazelnut Torte with layers of strawberry cream & a pot of French Earl Grey tea, as it’s our anniversary week!

Yes, Tea with Jennifer  is one year old! This website was launched 12 months ago…

I have two large slices of cake & poured a cup of tea for us, let’s go & sit in the shade of our beautiful Jacaranda tree.

It’s summer here & it’s a relaxing place to sit as we reflect upon this past year together.


Blogging has become such a wonderful blessing in my life, especially in the precious new friendships made here, nurtured in our time of tea & reflection together, thank you dear friends!

Blogging has also highlighted an important truth to me.

No matter what age, stage or season of life we are in, each of us are called to fulfill a purpose & we need to be truly authentic within that purpose!

Let me explain the above statement a little more clearly.

When I started this website my aim was to humbly fulfill a call, to share my professional & personal life experience with others who are facing the challenges that life has a habit of confronting us with.

Many of these challenges, I have already traversed, survived & thrived through.

Because of an amazing relationship I chose many years ago, shared in My story…

baked beautiful birthday birthday cake


Although, rather naively, I came into the blogging world believing a blogger wrote an article & then it went viral because I’d heard so many things on the Internet going viral!

As I was researching to set up my website I quickly learnt that the vast majority of websites do not go viral after publishing a first, second, third or subsequent reflection!

A blogger has to work extremely hard to promote their tiny space in this blogsphere.

This is done by joining blog communities in blog link ups, blog hops, blog parties, using social media, reading, reading & commenting.

And being really inventive with categories, tags & how your website is set for servers & search engines!

Therefore, I set about putting in the hard yards.

As I don’t use social media I joined many family friendly blog link ups each week & went about adjusting my Website settings.

So many new friends started visiting & continue to faithfully return as my regular tea & reflection guests, from many different nations & cultures worldwide each week.

Which is such a privilege & delight…

However putting the hard yards in had started extracting its toll.

As 90% of my cyber time was being spent on promotion with only 10% on writing, hence my quiet time for our all important tea & reflection began to suffer.

I was also becoming harried & stressed.

Stress is counterproductive for me, as stress is one of the triggers for Fibromyalgia to go into a flare, which is what happened!

As seen in my reflection When we have nothing left to give…

And I had started getting distracted by WordPress statistical data…ahhhh…which is not me at all!

I do realize they have their place in monitoring your Web site’s impact & place in this blogsphere…

But I am much more interested in you, my dear friend & how you are traveling each week in the midst of life’s challenges, not in blog referral statistics!

What was happening to my authenticity, purpose & call?

A great imbalance had occurred!

I took a long hard look in the blogging mirror at the behavioral patterns this promotional tour had begun to develop…Hmmm…It had become a detour!

We often get detoured in life, when we start focusing on peripheral things that seem so interesting, enticing or even important at the time.

But end up completely distracting us from our true purpose…

So as I do when problematic issues appear or develop in life.

I pause…

Pour myself a cup of tea, sit quietly, reflect, journal & have a good old chat with God…

Then I go into action!

Authentic = original

I started by looking at my original call & purpose for this website…to humbly share my professional & personal life experience to offer hope to others going through similar struggles!

So, I now keep purposefully focused, managing my time at community blogging events much more wisely, which has taken the stress away.

And I view statistics as an interesting tidbit of info but not a focus!

Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began & finished this race we’re in.

Study how He did it.

Because He never lost sight of where He was headed – that exhilarating finish in & with God…”

Hebrews 12:2 Refer 2

Taking the above action has restored His peace & harmony within my soul, returning me to my true authentic purpose & call.

So dear friend, let me ask you the following question in this brand new season;

Have you become side tracked, traveling on a detour that has you feeling harassed & stressed, focusing on things that you know have started compromising your true authenticity & purpose?

Something to ponder, don’t you think?

Until next time,


 You’re most welcome to join me in The Reading Nook

Or in Prayer

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  1. Hi Jennifer, it’s great to hear your journey, increased awareness and tips for staying the course. Although I have been tempted by the apparent success of other blogs, I have learned the importance of self care thanks to reflecting on recent ill health and through some of the posts I’ve written so I’m happy to engage at a level that brings me joy and not at a level that causes stress, flares my fibro and takes over other important areas of my life. Marie xx

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    1. Hi Pam,
      Thank you for your kind words…It is such a joy to walk in His call & purpose when I keep that as my focus… But yes I agree, we can easily get detoured in this blogsphere with its enticements of greater successs by putting more time in! 😉

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  2. “Have you become sidetracked, traveling on a detour that has you feeling harassed & stressed, focusing on things that you know have started compromising your true authenticity & purpose?”

    Yes, yes, yes!

    I too have been stressed. I am not clear if my commitments have compromised my true authenticity and purpose, but they sure have left me with no margin and exhausted. We can’t do everything.

    Together with God, I am trying to step back and take a look and prioritize. I love serving, leading, speaking and writing but it has been leaving me with no margin.

    Thank you for your insightful post. Happy Anniversary. I am so glad our paths have crossed. I love seeing you on Grace & Truth Link-Up each week.


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    1. Yes, we can definitely over commit ourselves in the things we love, which then depletes our energy levels.
      Then our authenticity becomes jaded rather than renewed each day. Prioritizing & focusing with Him is so important. 😀

      It’s lovely to be a part of the Grace & Truth community Maree!

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  3. I was surprised to see your original goal and your chasing after numbers. It had never occurred to me that you weren’t just about sharing your story and God’s love. So I follow you for that reason. As for me, I started my blog with no set intention and just continue to turn the whole thing over. I am amazed each time I connect with someone!

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    1. I agree it’s amazing to connect with each person in this blogsphere.
      And it’s lovely having you drop in each week! Thank you! 😀

      I didn’t mean to give the impression that I was chasing numbers as that was not my intention nor focus, rather I was working hard to introduce the website …statistical focus got sidetracked on watching where my Referrers were coming from with the many blog link ups I was connecting with each week…

      Now I just enjoy the journey of sharing as originally purposed 😀

      I enjoy your blog Elizabeth with your reminiscing of things I haven’t thought of in a long time, it’s a fun way of getting to know you! And how similar our cultures are in many ways… 😀

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  4. So glad you stopped by my blog. Happy blogging anniversary! You put your finger on distractions I have encountered too. I am working on keeping my focus, paying attention to nudges from the Holy Spirit and giving glory to God.

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  5. Jennifer, you and I share a “blogiversary”. I began blogging 1 year ago too. My journey was similar to yours. I did make a Facebook page and a Twitter account when I first began blogging but promoting is so time-consuming I haven’t posted on social media in a long time. My New Year’s blogging resolution is to not check my statistics. I just don’t care about them. I want to write what I believe is my message and not worry about anything else. I love meeting new friends (like you) through my blog, and I am thankful for the supportive blogging community I have encountered, but it is about so much more than numbers!

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    1. Happy blogging anniversary Laurie!
      I totally agree blogging is so much more…my detour was focused upon Referrers…but no more statistical focus!
      Just enjoying the joyful journey of sharing my story & meeting wonderful people like you! 😀

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  6. Jennifer, what a wonderful post this is. Often times it’s so true that we allow things that are meant to be joyful become too stressful! Happy blogging anniversary…blogging is so much fun, in the 11+ years that I’ve been blogging, I’ve met so many wonderful friends. That is really the true blessing of blogging!

    I’m probably one of the few who never looks at numbers. Shocking. But otherwise it would probably take they joy away! I am so glad you left a comment on my sweet friend Pam’s blog so I could come here and visit you. May God bless you! Xo Lidy

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    1. Hi Lidy,
      We have a mutual friend in Pam 😀 Yes the lovely friendships & guests who we meet through blogging are true blessings!
      Goodness 11+ years of blogging, how amazing!
      Lovely having you drop by, I’m so glad you enjoyed our tea &:reflection together. 😀

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  7. Happy and blessed blogiversary! When God told me to “just write and I’ll take care of the rest” back in the 90’s I obeyed. I do and He does. WP and Google stats – what are those? 😉

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  8. Congratulations on your anniversary! It’s so easy to get distracted, isn’t it? :/ I’ve fallen prey to that as well a time or two. Now I try to focus on the fact that I write for an audience of One (and exercise due diligence in learning at a reasonable pace and not expecting the moon–maybe my words aren’t ready yet).

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  9. Congratulations on a year of blogging, Jennifer! I’m so glad we’ve connected. And it’s true, statistics can be a distraction. It’s good to bring back the focus to why we started blogging in the first place!

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  10. Your blog is always such a peaceful, relaxing place to be, so enjoyable!

    It’s an interesting journey on here. I wonder how many people end up where they thought they’d be. I think things come into your life when you need them and then they fade away when you don’t. End results not as important as appreciating the journey along the way.

    My main purpose here has been to spread awareness in hopes that anyone in need of a connection with chronic illness knows they aren’t alone. My way of reaching out. I feel the same today as I did the day I started. I’ve overshared ALL over the place but in doing so I’ve practiced being a little more true to myself. And a few people along the way have thanked me for doing just what I aimed to do, so it’s been good this far.

    I want to add that I’m so glad our paths crossed here. Wishing you a lovely New Year, Jennifer! 🌻

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    1. Awww, thank you Mishka! It has been a pleasure getting to know you in this blogsphere. 😀
      I’m glad it is a peaceful place to linger that is something I wanted to create for everyone who visits here…we need that in this overly busy world & especially when going through the hard times in life.
      I always smile when you write that you think you over share, I believe it’s who you are & that your personality is shining brightly through 😉 which makes getting to know you all the more delightful.
      You are accomplishing what you set out to do 😉

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  11. Wishing you a belated happy anniversary Jennifer. It is indeed interesting how we can get sidetracked and find a need to recalibrate every so often. I am so thankful I decided to take a month off as it allowed me to spend precious time with a dear relative who passed away peacefully yesterday. It puts everything into perspective.

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  12. I can’t believe how closely threaded our posts really were right! I find tremendous encouragement & confirmation in this and in what you’ve written! It’s so great to have found my way back again to the calling I felt with my own blog in the first place, and it’s so wonderful to see that I am in such great company! Travel on, my companion, and keep the focus just like you already are!

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  13. Hey Jen, you asked a really great question. And my answer is yes! I’ve gotten side tracked and lost in this blogging journey a time or two, or three! Ugh! 🙁 Its so easy to get off course with the social media promotion, link ups, statistics, etc. But I love how your post helps us reevaluate and get back in track. I really do enjoy my time here on your blog. I’ll be your new bud. Thanks for the tea, my friend!

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  14. Wow – this is exactly what I needed to read this morning. This morning as I sat down to the computer and thought “I HAVE to work on this blog” as in promoting it, etc etc….which is not at all how I began blogging. Thanks for helping me see some of the distractions and where I have veered from my original goal/idea. Such a helpful post for me today!! Much thanks –

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  15. Congratulations! You made it. Oh how I can relate to the distractions. I am a Pastors wife, grandmother and full time employee. Recently life happened and I chose to step back from my blog and breathe. Self- care is vital.

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