A Season of Waiting

Welcome dear friend, so lovely to have you drop by…I have some Pikelets (mini pancakes) with strawberry jam & a dollop of cream for our treat.

Have you noticed that waiting is one of the hardest things to do & can be one of the most frustrating to go through!

So why is waiting so difficult?

Waiting can take many forms;

waiting for that long awaited child to make their entrance into the world;

waiting for that romantic special One to appear;

waiting for a promise to be fulfilled;

waiting for our prayers to be answered;

waiting for healing, just to name a few.

Whatever the reason, we are placed in a holding pattern, one where we’re constantly circling above the expected hope, this can be a very challenging time!

Did you know that there is a psychology to waiting!

There has been a great deal of psychological research done on this very subject & most come to a similar conclusion on the behavior patterns of those waiting!

person wearing gray and white socks near brown fireplace

The studies found that when people have an expected time for the outcome of what they are hoping & waiting for the following behavior patterns are observed;

  1. The further away the expected time for the outcome is believed to be ~ the greater the patience exhibited!
  2. The closer the expected time for the outcome ~ the less patient people become & greater the frustration experienced!


In other words if we think the outcome of our hope is a long way off, we come into an attitude of resigned acceptance.

It’s going to happen one day in the future so hope & expectation looks ahead to the positive outcome which nurtures patience!

Expectations in waiting

However, if our expectation is that it’s going to happen at any minute our attitude increasingly becomes impatient & frustrated as time passes & our hope remains unfulfilled.

Our hope & expectation turns into fear & anxiety. Which hinders the development of patience.

You may ask, what does patience actually do for us & why do we need to develop it in life?

It’s actually a critical component for our emotional, mental & spiritual well being as it helps us to persevere through life with resilience.

It builds faith & trust in God’s perfect timing for the outcome of our hope.

Rest in the Lord & wait patiently for Him; do not fret…

Psalms 37: 7 Refer

Let’s take the above example, waiting for that long awaited child to make their entrance into this world.

I’ve had five children, so this is a subject I can personalise. Five pregnancies is a long time of waiting!

However look what amazing development is taking place in the meantime. A little human with all of their potential is being created. How awesome is that!

When a woman first knows she’s pregnant & given the due date for the birth, she’s excited & hopeful in her expectation.

She accepts that in her patient waiting, even with the morning sickness, discomfort, major changes to her body & the pain of labor that she will be rewarded in due time with the safe arrival of her child.

However what happens when that due date comes & goes!

Her attitude of patience begins to wear thin, the longer the time goes past the due date, the more impatient she becomes which eventually turns into frustration.

Hot on the heels of frustration come fear & anxiety for the safety of her child which can lead to stress, which in turn impacts both her & her unborn child.

Our attitude when waiting either nurtures or hinders healthy emotional & spiritual development…

Shall we ask ourselves, do we need to have an attitude check in our time of waiting!

Hmmm…something for us to reflect upon dear friend…

I like the following message;

“Let go, relax & know that I am God…”

Psalms 46: 10a Refer

Until next time…


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    1. You’re welcome Pam, this comes from hard learned lessons 😉
      But oh the peace & serenity that there is when we ‘Let go, relax & know that He is God’ in our lives & the lives we are praying for whether they realize that or not…

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  1. I learned what Pikelets are today. Thank you! You used a wonderful example for waiting when you wrote about a woman waiting for her child to be born, and the psychology you describe is spot on! In the beginning, there is patience and acceptance, but the closer you get to your due date, the more anxious and frustrated we get (I certainly did). Great reminder to develop a healthy, patient attitude.

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    1. I appreciate your kind words Laurie, thank you :-). I observed this happening to my friends with their over due pregnancies.
      I had all my babies before their due date which sets up its own dynamic of patience v anxiety for each proceeding pregnancy.
      Patience in waiting is definitely an attitude to nurture in that “letting go & relaxing in God’s Will” for the outcome.


  2. I think I had the advantage of growing up in a three generational home, benefitting from daily life with elderly grandparents where nothing could be rushed and patience was part of every interaction. My first child was a week overdue but while I found that week longer than other weeks I didn’t grow impatient, instead I walked a lot and was blessed with a 4.5 hour labour!

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  3. Your cover photo is just beautiful. I don’t mind waiting when I know the time frame. I do get a bit impatient when things are just up in the air as they sometimes are. Letting go and letting God isn’t always easy. I suppose we are called to wait for some things in God’s time.

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  4. I think that’s very true. When we know we have a long time to wait it is not so hard. It’s when we think the thing is about to happen, or should have already happened, that it gets more difficult. So important to trust God in the waiting!

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  5. Our third granddaughter arrived three months ago quite late 🙂 and you are so right – we became increasingly impatient with each day that passed. May we learn to wait patiently and expectantly in the days ahead.

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  6. I think that this is so true, Jennifer! I remember as a kid becoming more and more impatient for Christmas the closer it got. And turning to the Lord with our frustrations to find His soothing presence is certainly the best way to handle our impatience. Thanks for this inspiring word, my friend!

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  7. This post reminds me of a section of Screwtape Letters where the senior tempter is instructing his apprentice that if he can just get “his patient” almost to the end of a trial and then convince him that he just can’t stand it anymore, he will have won a huge victory.
    This has always fascinated me, because I see it in myself.

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  8. Wow! Very thought-provoking. I can still remember trying to teach my children patience and how difficult it was for them to wait, especially to open presents. Looking back, I see that we really never grow out of that impatience. We are all still like kids waiting to open presents. We wait, but grudgingly and whining. What if we did heed the verse, which happens to be my favorite verse, and Be still or let go and relax. How much more blessed would we be in the waiting?

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  9. Very timely post as we’ve been waiting on test/biopsy results for a family member and yep, 2 weeks ago we were just happy the surgery went so well.. now we’re anxiously awaiting results and getting very impatient indeed!

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