Welcome dear friend, we are sitting in the warmth of our Autumn sun today…under our flourishing Jacaranda tree introduced in Tree of life…
have an interesting tea blend called Prince of Wales for us to try & I have baked a Gf Earl Grey tea Date loaf…sliced, still warm & spread with lashings of real Lf creamery butter for our treat…
Prince of Wales tea is a rare treat as I can’t seem to find it readily available in my area…it is a black tea blend that has a roasted nutty flavor…the date loaf is so moist & delicious I have put out two slices each!
Well now we have our tea, treats & are settled under the Jacaranda, let’s begin our reflection.
Dates of a different kind
My husband & I have just celebrated our wedding anniversary. We went for a drive out to where we had our first date the other day, a few days before our anniversary, it was through the beautiful ranges we have surrounding the area we live.
We took a picnic just like that first date…we chatted about the years we have been married as we drove, the many challenges we have faced over those years, how we have grown, what our dreams & plans for the future are together!
This is called relationship…spending quality time together, chatting about past, present & future dreams…seeing where we have grown & what areas we still need to grow in…raising issues for discussion before they become contentious…is all important.
I believe where a relationship really reveals its truth, is behind the closed doors of the relationship, where only the two dwell…away from others eyes…where mutual respect, kindness, gentleness, dignity, consideration for each other & how one speaks to the other.
Marriage is a relationship of equality
A relationship of equality (within the differing roles of marriage) & mutual love…is truly demonstrated or not!
“For this is true relationship; being kind, considerate, gentle, loving, caring & in giving each other dignity! It should never be controlling & abusive in any way what so ever!”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Refer
You see God Himself does not control anyone in relationship to Himself, He has given each one of us the freedom of choice in relationship with Him, we are free to choose to have that relationship with Him through His Son Jesus or not!
So….then….if God the Creator of the universe does not seek to control us in relationship to Himself…then what right does anyone think they have, to control another in their relationship!
As we sat & ate our picnic lunch, looking out over the most picturesque quaint little country village…we dreamed & planned together, we chatted about our desires for the future individually & as a couple…we wondered where God would lead us & discussed where we are at…in Him…individually & as a married couple at the moment.
As we returned home, we felt at one with each other & in Him…having renewed those all important bonds of relationship, friendship & love.
Really listening to our partner
It takes time…to listen to your partner, to give them your undivided attention, to see where they are coming from, to really enjoy their company & to appreciate them for who they are…the person you fell in love with….to be able to see where you both are within your relationship presently…make time to do this often & regularly…you won’t be disappointed with the results!
Note; If you are being controlled & abused in any way in your relationship, please seek professional help as soon as possible, you need to protect your physical, emotional, mental & spiritual wellbeing! A professional can help you with strategies to address the situation safely…while your partner either gets the help they need (if they seek it) or lives with the consequences of their behavior apart from you…God does not expect anyone to be in a relationship that is controlling & abusive, ever!
Well, with the delightful tastes of the tea & the fruitiness of the loaf still lingering upon my tongue…our sun has moved its warmth…its now time to go inside!
Until next time dear friend…
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