Welcome dear friend, we are sitting in the warmth of our Autumn sun today…under our flourishing Jacaranda tree introduced in Tree of life…
I have an interesting tea blend called Prince of Wales for us to try & I have baked a Date loaf, sliced & spread with lashings of real creamy butter for our treat
Well now we have our tea, treats & are settled under the Jacaranda, let’s begin our reflection.
Dates of a different kind
My husband & I have just celebrated our wedding anniversary.
The other day we went for a drive out to where we had our first date, it was through the beautiful mountain range of this area.
We took a picnic, just like that first date & chatted about the years we’ve been married as we drove, remembering the many challenges we have faced, how we have grown together in those challenges & what our dreams are for the future.
This is called relationship, spending quality time together, chatting about past, present & future dreams.
Seeing where we have grown & what areas we still need to grow.
Raising issues for discussion before they become contentious is all important.
You see I believe where a relationship really reveals itself is behind closed doors.
Where only the two dwell, away from other eyes.
Where mutual respect, kindness, gentleness, dignity, consideration for each other & in how one speaks to the other is truly found or not.
Marriage is a relationship of equality
For marriage should always be a relationship of equality within the differing roles of marriage & mutual love demonstrated.
“For this is true relationship; being kind, considerate, gentle, loving, caring & in giving each other dignity! It should never be controlling & abusive in any way what so ever!”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Refer
You see God Himself does not control anyone in relationship to Himself, He has given each one of us the freedom of choice in relationship to Him, we are free to choose to have that relationship with Him through His Son Jesus or not!
Thought to ponder;
If God does not control anyone in relationship to Himself. Then what right does anyone think they have to control another in a relationship?
Getting back to our picnic, we sat & ate our lunch looking out over the most picturesque quaint little country village.
We dreamed & planned together, we chatted about our desires for the future individually & as a couple.
We wondered where God would lead us & discussed where we are in Him at the moment.
As we drove home, we felt at one with each other in Him, having renewed those all important bonds of relationship, friendship & love.
Really listening to our partner
It takes time to listen to your partner, to give them our undivided attention, to see where they are coming from, to really enjoy their company & to appreciate them for who they are.
The person you fell in love with & to be able to see where you both are within your relationship presently.
Make time to do this often & you won’t be disappointed!
Note; If you are being controlled & abused in any way in your relationship, please seek professional help as soon as possible, you need to protect your physical, mental & spiritual wellbeing!
A professional can help you with strategies to address the situation safely.
While your partner either gets the help they need (if they seek it) or lives with the consequences of their behavior apart from you.
God does not expect anyone to live in a relationship that is controlling & abusive, ever!
Well, with the delightful tastes of the tea still lingering & as the Sun has moved its warmth now give, its time to go inside!
Until next time dear friend…
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